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Sunday, April 30, 2006

More 1960's Paper Proposal
Roberts, Helen, ed. Doing Feminist Research. Boston: Routledge and Kegan Paul, 1981.

Roberts uses a collection of papers that sociologists have used and influenced feminism. Using personal stories it allows the reader to have a insight on the research that Roberts has found. The basis of the book is divided among theoretical, practical, and ethnical issues of feminism. In doing so, women have become noticeable in society.

Ruether, Radford Rosemary. New Women New Earth: Sexist Ideologies and Human Liberation. New York: The Seabury Press, 1975.

The book is a combination of the issue dealing with sexism. Ruether uses ideologies, and religious beliefs of sexism in order to show the oppression that women have to deal within society. Stereotypes are placed upon women, and women fight against the stereotypes hoping to win. Women who are strong, and able to process a different mindset should be able to be inferior.

Tobias, Sheila. Faces of Feminism: An Activist’s Reflections on the Women’s Movement. United States: Westview Press, 1997.

Shelia Tobia had an active role in the Second Wave Feminism. She feels men and women are able to meet in the middle in terms of process. She fills the readers on the issues of feminism that have been surfacing for decades.


Vidulich, Dorothy. "A radical option for feminist communities.(Statistical Data Included)." National Catholic Reporter 36.24 (April 14, 2000): 25. Expanded Academic ASAP. Thomson Gale. Randolph-Macon College. 12 April 2006 .

Women have gained power within the church. Until about the 1960’s women were not given the opportunity to do much in the church. It was from 1970 on, women were not starting to study theology. Vidulich states, “Not all Catholic women are feminists. But they are theologians.” Yet, now women do not want to take on the role and work beside men.


The source that I found most useful was the Feminist Mystique because it is a primary source, that really gave an insight as to how things were in the 1960’s. Using all of Friedan’s stories, among a lot of other women I felt like I had a strong understanding as to how women felt towards the feminist movement. In the book, I felt like I established an emotional connection with the women because they felt like they did not have self worth. You were able to side with the women, and imagine what that would be like. It is interesting to think back to the 1960’s and how different things would be. I really enjoyed reading this book, and felt like I was able to gain a first hang knowledge from Friedan. There were some sources that I felt were harder for me to get interested in, but the Feminist Mystique really grabbed me into the story. I am not sure if the "A radical option for feminist communities.(Statistical Data Included)" will really help me in my paper, but it was nice to get a different perspective on how women are in the church. I am do not think that I will really have a section on women’s religious involvement for my paper.

Saturday, April 29, 2006

Summary of prisoner abuse scandal
What happened on the “night shift of Tier 1 at Abu Ghraib prison were acts of brutality and purposeless sadism. The pictures shown were unacceptable even at war time; they were not part of any of the authorized interrogations. They represent deviant behavior and the failure of military leadership and discipline” (“Final Report of the Independent Panel to Review DoD Detention Operations”).
Janis Karpinski was the highest ranking officer before the torture scandal ever occurred. She knows the details pertaining to what happened in Abu Ghraib. There has been talk about how the military officials play into the tortures themselves. One in particular is General Miller. He was the person in charge of detainment center in the Guantanamo Bay, Cuba. He was sent to Abu Ghraib to help improve the interrogating techniques used. General Miller actually made it a point to come and assist with different techniques. He himself said that the interrogators were being too nice to them. He even took it a step further and gave an example used in Guantanamo. He said that you have to let them know who is in charge, “you have to treat them like dogs.” Interesting enough, Secretary of Defense, Donald Rumsfeld authorized the interrogation techniques. So who dropped the ball? The Secretary of Defense was pressuring for additional intelligence and more aggressive methods, but was based solely on the needed and appropriate detains which the government defined as “unlawful combatants.”

To what extent should principles of human rights and international law played a role in America’s decision to invade Iraq?

Human rights and international law should play a role in America’s decision to invade Iraq. Where the lines should be drawn should be regulated by the government. The government is fighting in Iraq in order to protect itself from terrorism, and free people in Iraq, enforce international law, and bring peace to the Middle East. In terms of international law, Brian Lepard notes there should be a principle of moral laws requiring governments to take some measurements on the measures of their abilities to prevent violations on human rights, like crimes against humanity, war crimes and torture. The victory that the Iraqi people had over Saddam have been seen as a positive consequence in terms of the moral standpoint of human rights. Saddam is said to be the worst Slobodan Milosevic.
The war can be morally justified because Saddam Hussein was a brutal tyrant, violator of Human Rights, torture and a mass murder causing terror to the world. There were some contradictions because there were arguments as to why the United States wanted to remove Saddam out of power when they supported once the brutal war with Iran. The United States did not do anything about the brutal regime, and allowed what Kanan Makiya called the “Republic of Fear.”
The war with Iraq helped to make the lives of the Iraqi people better. The reason in doing this was to allow the brutal regime to be overpowered. In order to gain the rights of the Iraqi people back. To the Iraqi people, they feel that their rights have been taken away but American soldiers are over there fighting to better their lives. Of course, the Abu Ghraib scandal comes to mind in terms of Iraqi people’s own rights being violated. In my opinion, they were indeed violated. Even if they were held in detainment, they should not have to be degraded. With prisoners, determining what human rights are can be difficult. But with proper people in charge, and overseeing what happens this should not be a problem. Whether it is the President, Secretary of Defense, or the highest ranking general, the rights among humans should not be put in jeopardy.

Friday, April 28, 2006

My Spanish Composition

Busco una vacación que seamos divertidos. Mi familia y yo fuimos de camping. Fuimos a Chattanooga, TN. Fue al campamento y monta una tienda de campaña. Mi hermana y yo monta una tienda de campaña juntos. Nosotros trabajamos mucho. Entonces mi hermana y yo sudamos porque hace calor. Mis padres animaron a terminar con la tienda de campaña. Nosotros dormir en la tienda de campaña esa noche.

Después de monta una tienda de campaña nosotros cocinamos nuestras cenas. Nosotros hicimos la comida con la fogata. Tener la pasta con el ají, el champiñón y el ajo. Nuestras cenas son excelentes. Después de la cena, jugamos los naipes con mi familia. Mi madre expone diestra y ella gano también. Luego nosotros nos dormimos porque tuvimos mucho de la mañana. Lo pasé muy bien con juegos competitivos. Nado en el lago con mi hermana cuando fuera la equitación.

Yo me divertí con mi familia cuando fuimos de camping. Mi hermana y yo tenían divertidos. Yo aprendí a vivir en una tienda de campaña. Yo aprendí a poner una tienda de campaña juntos también. Fue de camping otra vez. Mi familia fuimos de camping este verano. Yo fue de camping con mis primos en Charleston, SC. Mis primos no fuimos de camping. Mis primos quería a fue de camping con mi.

Thursday, April 27, 2006

Current Social and Religious Tensions of Judaism

Israel’s secular community feels threatened by the amount of force religion has been placed on the community. Making people feel trapped, and left questioning the way of the secular community. The followers of Judaism feel threatened by the religious force. On top of the fact, that Judaism is obtaining a role in politics. (http://judaism.about.com/od/politics/a/gazaevac_behind.htm)
Zionism, known as the new civil religion has made for a positive change towards the more traditional Judaism. Except with good, comes controversy which brings me to the next belief that it is moving towards a secular belief. In terms of the Israeli community, Zionism has been the basis of making the society more traditional. (http://www.photius.com/countries/israel/society/israel_society_ethnicity_and_social~8723.html)
The Torah is now back in Judaism, and a lot of people are not sure how to react to the news. Ezer Weizman was the old president who passed down the position to Egyptian President Hosni Mubarak. It is Hosni Mubarak who is bringing back the Torah, which has been the basis of a lot of tension with Judaism. The Torah brings forth awful memories of the Yom Kippur War. The Yom Kippur War and the torah both are reminders of the way the war panned out. (http://www.torah.org/features/secondlook/memories.html)

Wednesday, April 26, 2006

Starting to get the wheels turning...

Children raised in single parent families “have realistic and cautious views of marriage and family life” (Strengths of Single Parent Families). Why is that so? Children raised in a single parent family have seen the positive and negative aspects of how a family is raised. It is the learning experiences that they have taken away from their environment at home to shape their own perceptions of their relationships and marriage. Children learn from their peers, and if a negative atmosphere at home is caused by the fact that their parents are not happy among themselves, children know. If children grow up listening to the muffled sounds of their parents bickering back and forth throughout the night, of course they are going to be cautious of who they decide to marry. Not to say that this is a bad thing by any means because they face relationships, and one day marriage with a realistic view. If single parent families have come to terms that life is not always going to end up in a happily ever after fairytale, then they are benefiting both their partner and themselves. With that said, divorce has completely put an entirely new meaning to the fairy tale we all hope for. Children of single parent families have a different view of a fairy tale because it becomes more or less some that you are able to get along with, and enjoy the time you spend with your partner. Not so much that they are looking for Prince Charming to show up on a white horse to sweep you off your feet. With a realistic view, children from single parent families tend to be more passionate about who they fall in love with. They are more concisely aware that divorce does happen, and it may be possible that they could end up as a single parent family, like their own parents did.

Tuesday, April 25, 2006

Journal Article Review for Alec Depcrynski
By Elizabeth Brittain
I enjoyed reading your essay because I feel like you really give a clear and descriptive description of the game of soccer. The introduction allows the reader to feel like they are able to understand why you love the game so. I liked the analogy that you use about how you cradle the ball much like a mom with her pride and joy. It gives a understanding to the reader that may not understand why you love soccer as much as you do. Everyone knows how a mother feels about her newborn baby, so it allows the reader to establish the connection.

I felt like the last couple of sentences of the first paragraph showed how soccer is portrayed among other countries, on top of the way Americans do. The last sentence in the first paragraph illustrates an important point that America has rejected it and the rest of the world has welcomed it with open arms. I felt like that showed you were going to talk about how America did not appreciate it and everyone else did.

I think the main purpose for writing the essay is so that you can raise awareness about soccer. You state that soccer is not taken for is full worth in the United States, but it is all over the world. I think that you challenge the view by putting your personal story out there because it shows that soccer is of a great amount of worth to you. I think that the essay is informative, narrative, and persuasive. I think that you did a great job incorporating all three. I think that you give enough background about the topic in order to give someone who does not appreciate soccer in the way you do. Using your own story you are able to really illustrate how soccer has influenced your life.

The next paragraph gives your story and how to learn to love the game, which I think is an important part to the essay. It allows reader to fall in love with your story, in hopes that they will be able to see the game in the ways that you did. I also think that using this paragraph establishes credibility for yourself and the game. It shows that soccer has been your passion since as long as you can remember. Also another tool that is used is making the reader aware of that fact that your dad was the General Manager for the Richmond Kickers. As a reader, it really made me feel like you really knew the game because your dad also showed a liking for it as well. Showing how you grew up with soccer shows that soccer has been a huge part of your life. At the same time I also see that you a creditable and honest when you talk about the fact that you did have all of the best equipment so you do not relate to the kids in Africa who had to make their own ball and goals. Yet you still admitted to the audience that you were spoiled, I like the honesty.

I think that you give the readers enough background information on the game itself. Enough for someone who does not follow soccer as much as you do to have a clear understanding of the game. I started to get a clear understanding of the article on the third page when you talked about how you grew up in the United States, in a place where soccer was forgotten and overlooked a sport. I think that shows the basis of the point in the text itself.

By the end of the essay I felt like I did have a clear understanding of the argument. Especially after you talk about your family trip to Equator and the Islands because through this story you yourself illustrated how you changed. I think that is a defining aspect to the paper, it showed that despite America and the rest of the world had a different view on the game of soccer it did not matter when you all actually played. Even though you all did not speak the same language, or come from the same place once you all stepped on the field you all shared one thing and that was the love for the game. Nothing else mattered. I liked the conclusion because it connected back to your new perception of the game, and how through personal experience you knew soccer could bring people together. The last sentence was on of my favorite because it admitted that you were an American, and that hits home to all.

Monday, April 24, 2006

Lesson 9
Elegance

Writers write clearly and concisely, but to some such a clear cut way of writing can be a bit boring. Williams suggests that “a flash of elegance can not only fix thought in our minds, but give us a flicker of pleasure every time we recall it” (154). The focal point of this lesson is not just clear writing, but one that presents some satisfaction to not only the reader but for yourself. Making your sentence flow with balance and symmetry allows for the sentence to echo through the sound, and meaning. A clear sentence is determined by the way in which you start the sentence, and the ending establishes rhythm. Elegant sentences end in four ways: ending with a strong word, a prepositional phrase using of, balancing the stressed words with the previous ones, and finding a balance within both parts of a sentence. Williams notes that elegant style can not be found by simply reading the Style guide. It can be obtained through reading other works and you see how their elegant style works. The final thought of the lesson: “less is more” (173).

Sunday, April 23, 2006

Is money the root of all evil?
Money does make the world go round, or at least that is what they say. Today our society has become so wrapped in the fact that you have to have money. You turn on the television and see advertisements for the latest cars, clothes, and food. And we wonder why our society is so driven by money? I think that it is sad that money has such an impact on the world. single parent families are already classified as the poorest group in terms of social classes (Garfinkel and McLanahan 1). Single parent families struggle financially on top of all of the other adjustments that stem from a divorce.
My dad did not really show much support in my childhood because nothing that I ever did was good enough. To this day, he still stands by the fact that I am going to be the first of my immediate family to graduate from college, and have grown tremendously from my college experience. Yet somehow none of this is good enough. I feel like my dad always favored my sister which holds truth today. My dad was a waiter at a tavern when my parents were married, it was the income he made that our family lived off of. When my parents divorced, my dad announced that he was going to pick up selling real estate again. He had sold real estate before my parents had met, and never showed an interest in it again until my parents split. My dad is now doing really well in the real estate sales. In fact, there was a huge write up on how successful my dad has become in the newspaper a couple of weeks ago announcing him as the “Platinum Seller.” My mom clued me into the details; she said that in order to receive that title one must sell millions of dollars in property.

Saturday, April 22, 2006

I remember the day that I turned sixteen. It was a day that every girl dreams about. I had friends who came home from school to find the car of their dreams wrapped with a pretty red bow waiting in their driveway. I did not have that luxury. I was told that I normally would not have received a car, but mom needed me to be able to help out with my sister. I read the newspaper, and circled some options. My mom ended up getting a great deal from one of her co-workers. I picked up the phone and called my uncle, who acts as if he were my dad, and we was able to help me pay for the car. Two days later, a check was sitting in my mailbox. Everything worked out and between me, my mom and uncle; I was able to buy the car. My dad was not willing to help me, yet my uncle was. I felt so lucky to have such a great family that was able to make it happen.
On the flipside, my dad came over to take Amy and me out to lunch on Easter. At lunch, he announced to Amy and I that he was going to buy Amy a car for her sixteenth birthday. I heard this and immediately my jaw dropped to the floor. I thought to myself where was my dad when I needed a car? Being that my dad is making a lot more money now then he was when my parents divorced, I understood why. Well sorta, but well no not really. I think that is was then that it struck me just how much money plays into the situation. My dad has made some personal changes between now and then, but I ask myself is that really the answer? Looking back my dad was waiting tables when my parents were married, and now he is one of the top realtors in Williamsburg. There was a huge write up on how successful my dad has become in the newspaper a couple of weeks ago announcing him as the “Platinum Seller.” My mom clued me into the details, she said that in order to receive that title one must sell millions of dollars in property. I just don’t get it. Here I am going to school at Randolph-Macon College, paying for my education through scholarships, and loans. On top of the fact that I work everyday after school and my dad does not help my out financially.

Friday, April 21, 2006

Is money the root of all evil?


Single parent families suffer the most financially. Think about it, after a family has gone from the transition from a nuclear family to a single parent family the family suffers due to a lack of income. A nuclear family has the benefit to have two incomes in order for the families’ needs to be met. After a divorce, the amount of income the family has to live off of is cut in half. Even in some cases the income is less because men and women are not paid equally in the working world. Extra stress is placed on families who are headed by single parents. First and foremost, is the struggle with income: “Families headed by single women with children are the poorest of all major demographic groups regardless of how poverty is measured” (Garfinkel and McLanahan 1). Single parent mothers are expected to support their family based upon their income alone. Women are not paid as much as men, which ultimately creates a struggle for single parent mothers. On top of the fact that women rely on childcare facilities; they are putting forth a lot of their income in order to provide childcare for their children (Garfinkel and McLanahan 23). Making ends meet financially is the main struggle that single parent families deal with everyday. The children depend on that parent for their economic and emotional support.
Not all of the income is based on the one parent the child actually lives with. The child could receive child support that is a fixed amount of money the parents have agreed the child will receive each month. Between the money that the parent of the child or children, and child support are the basis of the families’ income. Of course, not all households actually receive child support, for the simple fact that not everyone follows the rules of life. My dad did pay child support for both my sister and me, but in order to provide for two children eight hundred dollars is not a lot. My mom was now in charge of paying the mortgage on the house, all of the bills, and every meal or piece of clothing that we needed.

Thursday, April 20, 2006

You don’t deserve me
And I don’t need you anymore.

Keep the cards and pictures,
I don’t want them anymore.

I saw you the other day,
You were with her.

Will you tell her I said hi?
And good luck with you all.

Hey tell her I said, “you’re a keeper”
Just you wait and see…

That is only if she can put up with the simple fact
That you think the world owes you everything.

Well listen here my friend,
You will get nothing from me anymore.

Where ever life takes you,
Good luck in what you do.

Don’t loose yourself out there
Where ever life takes you.

I will blow it off because
What we had is over and done.

You never deserved me
And well I don’t want you anymore.

Wednesday, April 19, 2006

Sometimes I really just don’t understand how things happen the way that they do with my dad. My sister and I have a five year difference of age between us, yet somehow my dad clings to my sister more so than me. Growing up I was the oldest, I was all my parents wanted. All I wanted growing up was to have a little sister to play with. Every Christmas I would tell my mom that I wanted Santa to bring me a sister. My mom laughed and said maybe he will. Finally it happened; my parents announced that my little sister was on the way. I was so excited at the thought of having a sister to grow up with and play dress up. Growing up, my sister and I were two peas in a pod. I came home from kindergarten thrilled to spend the afternoon with my sister. I would come running into the door, and came looking for Amy. We were inseparable, and mom even dressed the two of us alike. Everyone thought we were twins. The years have gone by and I still am really close to her, but some things have changed. Sometimes I look at my sister and see me, and then other times I will wonder how we are related. We are so alike, yet so different all at the same time. Growing up my sister got lucky because I did all of the things around the house. I had the mentality that it was easier for me to do it and get it done. Rather than actually take the time to teach Amy how to do things. Sometimes I think back and feel like I did more damage with this then good. To this day Amy still does not help out around the house. Both my mom and I ask her to do so, and she just does not find it important. I end up getting so frustrated with her because she does not help my mom. We end up getting into fights about it because I tell her she needs to help mom out. And she then gets defensive, and says you know I am not you. How are you supposed to respond to this? I was not trying by any means comparing her to me at all.

I started to freewrite about my potential topic, and well I got really off topic...it really turned out to be me venting about my sister?? Still a work in progress...

Tuesday, April 18, 2006

My finished annotated bibliography:

Coontz, Stephanie. Social Problems Correlate More Closely With Poverty Than Family Background. Insight on the News. News World Communications, Inc: 1997.

This article really was helpful in my paper because it showed some of the ways single parent families are not perceived as being such a bad thing. I used it to make my paper more balanced towards my single parent controversy.

Dowd, Nancy E. In Defense of Single-Parent Families. New York University Press: New York: 1997.

The part of In Defense of Single-Parent Families I found most important was indeed the couple of chapters because it really cleared up a lot of myths that single parent families receive by society. Coming from a single parent family I have really picked up on a lot of stereotypes, but never really thought too much about them. It was in this book I was able to understand the different between myths in chapter 1 and then in Chapter 2 I saw the realities of single parent families.

Edin, Kathryn, and Laura Lein. Making Ends Meet: How Single Mothers Survive Welfare and Low-Wage Work. New York: Russell Sage Foundation, 1997.

Making Ends Meet really illustrated the struggle that single parent mother have to experience in the workforce. Single parent mothers are “unskilled and semiskilled mothers who try to support their children by working are hard-pressed to find a job that pays a living wage.” It really puts life for a single parent family in perspective because they are working long hours in order to provide for their children, except they are not being paid a wage that is going to allow themselves to afford everything that their family needs. Yet, single parent mothers are more equipped to understand what is perceived as being responsible for their children.

“Explaining the higher incidence of adjustment problems among children of divorce compared with those in two-parent families.” Ronald L. Simmons, KueiHsiu Lin, Leslie C. Gordon, Rand D. Conger and Fredrick O. Lonrenz. Journal of Marriage and the Family. 61.4 (Nov 1999): 1020(1).

The journal talks about the factors that adolescents face in divorced or intact families. Those factors include a loss of income, parental conflicts, adjustments made within discipline, and parent’s involvement with parents. The loss of income can provide frustration for children if the family has to move to a different neighborhood or school. The change in environment makes for a higher risk of the child actually internalizing and externalizing problems. The stress can be seen in the parents as well, which makes for a negative atmosphere within the household.


Fagan, Patrick F. and Robert Rector. “The Effects of Divorce on America.” World and 1. (Oct 2000): 15.10. Expanded Academic ASAP. Thomson Gale. Randolph-Macon College. 22 February 2006.

The article “The Effects of Divorce on America,” states that divorce is hurting the society of America, and is devastating the lives of our children. Research has shown that the effects of divorce will continue into adulthood, and then become apart of the next generation. They point fingers at society because they still embrace divorce through laws, and sending the message that it is okay. The article pinpoints specific examples that show how divorce affects children. The argument that the article really holds to is that if we do not do anything about divorce in America, we will continue into a downward spiral of social decay. Later on in the article, they suggest that Congress should step in and take care of the problem. They hope to attain a number that will allow divorce to be reduced by 1/3 percent. Congress wants to get the divorce rate back to the number it was in the 1970’s.

“family, sociology of” A Dictionary of Sociology. John Scott and Gordon Marshall. Oxford University Press 2005. Oxford Reference Online. Oxford University Press. Randolph-Macon College. 27 February 2006. http://oxfordreference.com/views/ENTRY.html?subview=Main&entry=t88.e807

This dictionary of sociology really expressed the fact that a “family is an intimate domestic group made up of people related to one another by bonds of blood, sexual mating, or legal ties” It made it clear that the beliefs of the systems of family are changing as we are starting to understand the diversity of family life. I think that his definition will really help because it opens the audience’s eyes to perceiving family in a different way, which to some people is hard. I think this definition will be helpful in order to tune in the children that have not experienced divorce first hand.

Garfinkel, Irwin, and Sara S. McLanahan. Single Mothers and their Children: A New American Dilemma. Washington, D.C.: The Urban Institute Press, 1986.

Single Mothers and their Children, has been very beneficial with the understanding of single parent families headed by mothers. It goes into details, and presents the facts that single parent families struggle with, such as poverty, social instability, and the dynamics of a mother-only family. The book really gives a visual indication to the readers showing the percentage of families headed by mothers with tables and figures. The tables in fact give a breakdown of the average income of while and black families in 1982 according to the type of family.



Grall, Timothy S. “Custodial Mothers and Fathers and Their Child Support: 2001.” October 2003. U.S. Department of Commerce: Economics and Statistics Administration. 21 February 2006. http://www.census.gov/prod/2002pubs/p60-217.pdf#search='custodial%20mothers%20and%20fathers%20and%20their%20child%20support'

Custodial Mothers and Fathers and Their Child Support: 2001 is the United States Census for the year 2001. The census was done in order to survey and show which parent was actually the custodial parent of their children. In 2002, there were a total of 13.4 million custodial parents. After the figure was found, the U.S. Department of Commerce then took the 13.4 million parents and broke it down into the amount of children under the age of 21, living with their mother or father. The census showed that 5 out of every 6 custodial parents were mothers, and then 1 out of every 6 custodial parents were fathers. The overall findings stated that about 27.6 of children under the age of 21 lived in a single parent family.

McLanahan, Sara, and Gary Sandefur. Growing up with a Single Parent. Cambridge, Massachusetts: Harvard University Press, 1994.

Growing up with a Single Parent gave me a more clearer picture as to how children are affected by divorce. For example, a lot of the facts that I have been seeing did not go into great detail but this book did. Going along with, the belief that children are most likely going to drop out of high school. I have seen this in a lot of journal entries, and also books. In Growing up with a Single Parent, the book gave figures that illustrated the amount of children who graduate from high school, 73 percent of children from a single parent receive a high school diploma, 12 percent get a GED, or General Equivalency Diploma. With a grand total, of 15 percent of children dropping out of high school.

Miller, Naomi. Single Parents by Choice. New York: Insight Books, 1992. 111-25.

Single Parents by Choice offered examples taken from real people. In the examples Miller set the stage, giving details as to how their own personal experience with divorce looked like. Then under that it illustrated their take on things, and how they felt while they were going through divorce. It made it clear that divorce happens to a lot of different kinds of people, and we all deal with it differently. This book will be useful when I want to use the people’s own experiences in order to get my point across to the audience. I think that using example really makes my points stronger.

Nelson, Patricia Tanner. “Single-Parent Families.” Journal of Extension. Winter 1986. Vol 24. Num. 4. 23 Feburary 2006. www.joe.org/joe/1986winder/rb2.html



The focus of the article, “Single-Parent Families” was based on the belief that single parent families hold a different position in terms of society. It suggested that single parent families have a high rate of poverty, low education, and are on the move. Single parent families have a little status in American society, and are a group that is pressed with economic and social needs. It talks about the drop of income that mothers receive after divorce. The article made some interesting points about the effects that divorce has on children. Children of single parent families are two times more likely to drop out of high school as children who are living with two parents. Another fact is that children who were raised in a single parent family are likely to have their marriage end up in separation or divorce. They are also at a higher risk for having children outside of wedlock.

Simmons, Ronald L. & Associates. Understanding Differences Between Divorced and Intact Families: Stress, Interaction and Child Outcome. Thousand Oaks, California: Sage Publications, 1997.

The title Understanding Differences Between Divorced and Intact Families: Stress, Interaction and Child Outcome really speaks for itself. This book has been a huge help in finding direction to my topic. It really gives a lot of the points I find important to single parent families, the effects of divorce on adult and child adjustment, the maternal stresses that are placed upon our parents. It discusses the ways mother parenting, father parenting are playing into the outcome of their children. Furthermore, it discusses the relationships that siblings have, which I find very important to the family.

“Single Parents.” Family Trends. Jan. 2004. 16 Apr. 2006. http://ssw.unc.edu/jif/famtrend/docs/Single.pdf#search='family%20trends%20single%20parents%20families%20are%20important'

“Single Parents” made the structure of families raising children come from a lot of varieties: single parents, gay or lesbian, a grandmother, or even a group of friends. They describe the different makeups that families consist of, and the characteristics that make each one up. Those of single parent families make connections with other members of the family that help create a healthy environment. Children from single-parent families have more responsibilities which allow for more personal growth. Lack of income makes life in a single parent family stressful. As the years go by, the number of single parent families continues to rise.

"The Effect of Family Structure and Family Functioning on Adolescents’ Perceptions of Intimate Time Spent with Parents, Siblings, and Peers." Journal of Youth and Adolescence 26 (1997): 25-43.



The study looks at family structure and the amount of time children spend among their family and peers. In order to see whether or not this has an affect on the interaction among family members, basing that more time spent between parents and children is better for their relationships as children and adults. When children have age differences then they are more likely to establish stronger relationships with their parents. Research has shown that family structure begins with birth order, and then moves to sibling makeup.

“The Impact of Divorce on Children.” David H. Demo and Alan C. Acock. Journal of Marriage and the Family. 50 (August 1988): 619(30).

With high divorce rates in U.S. over the past 20 years a lot of changes have been occurring. Children and the families affected by divorce faced consequences. Studies were done and found that most youth to age 18 will live in a single parent home. This article is useful because it assesses the impacts of divorce on children all within the last decade.

Monday, April 17, 2006

1960's Paper Proposal
Thesis: Women of the 1960’s were automatically placed upon a pedestal for men to admire them; who knew what seemed to be such a hot seat proved to be the foundation of low self esteem, and lack of importance outside of the household.Topics to cover:Women’s role in the householdThe way men viewed women“Sleeping beauty” analogy – if women do not wake up life will pass them by.The magazine Seventeen influences young women at such a young age giving girls the idea that they have to uphold the standard that women are objects of desire.Women are placed upon pedestals. Yet, being on a pedestal is what gives women the pressure to be a mom, housewife, and spouse. Being placed high upon society is in fact what causes women to feel lonely, and unworthy to society.Women question their self-worth because they are not able to obtain education, instead they are forced to stay inside and take care of their home and children.Annotated Bibliography:Friedan, Betty. The Feminism Mystique. New York: W.W. Norton & Company, Inc, 1997.Friedan gives a personal insight as to how women felt during the 1960’s. It is through her personal experience, among the other stories from women Friedan is able to put the need for the Feminism Movement into perspective. Reading the Feminism Mystique, my heart goes out to the women because they struggle everyday as they try and feel like they have a purpose. Yet, this is the hard to do when women are locked up in a house doing the same things everyday: cooking, cleaning, taking care of their children.Horowitz, Daniel. Betty Friedan and the Making of The Feminine Mystique. Amherst: University of Massachusetts Press, 1998.Horowitz states that Betty Friedan did not really plan to write The Feminine Mystique. At the same time the life she led was what in fact allowed her to do so. It was throughout the writing of the book that her life was then pieced together. In the book we as readers, are able to see her life from first hand experience.Kolbenschlag, Madonna. Kiss Sleeping Beauty Good-bye. New York: Doubleday & Company, Inc, 1979.Kolbenschlag really puts an interesting perspective on the way that both girls and women are perceived. She states that girls are constantly sitting in class, waiting for something. Girls are constantly waiting for life, but the thing is life has already begun. If the girls do not “wake up” then life will pass them by. She makes the claim that girls are always seeking advice from magazines, like Seventeen. Seventeen teaches young girls to be desirable, and attractive to boys. In the magazine, they makes statements that suggest school is the best place to meet boys. With these statements young girls are pressured to look their best at school when they think they are going to have to dress to impress. And we wonder why women think they have one role in the world, to be objects of desire?Janeway, Elizabeth. Man’s World, Woman’s Place: A Study in Social Mythology. New York: William Morrow and Company, Inc, 1971.This book talks about the myths in which women are perceived in society. The first sentence of the book summarizes the view of the book, “It’s a man’s world. Woman’s place is in the home” (7) It then goes on to state that “outer space is reserved for men, inner place belongs to women” (7). One myth Janeway talks about is the duty women have in the household. She illustrates that women’s jobs used to be the home. The duty has now changed because women are in more than taking care of their children, and home. She says that the reasoning in this is because there is now less for women to do in the home then it used to. When women do not have enough to keep themselves occupied they will not be happy."Motherhood reconceived: feminism and the legacy of the sixties." Canadian Woman Studies 18.2-3 (Summer-Fall 1998): 156. Expanded Academic ASAP. Thomson Gale. Randolph-Macon College. 11 April 2006 .This article talked about how women in the 1960’s were taking an active approach on motherhood. They were becoming less ashamed of their sexuality, and finally embracing it. Women obtained a more confident view towards their bodies. In the 1960’s and 70’s women felt that womanhood would bring women of all ethnicities closer together. Women were banning together in order to claim love for themselves, and one another.

Sunday, April 16, 2006

ABC's new show:
What about Brian?

A sneak peak episode came on tonight, and I love the show already. The show is about Brian, the main character who hangs out with a close group of friends. All of his friends are paired off, all except him. Brian has hopes that even at 34 he is going to get struck by love, despite all of his bad luck he has had with the dating scene.

The episode begins with Brian being parked at a stop light and makes eye contact with a girl in the car beside him. He was so wrapped up in making eye contact with the girl that when the light turned green; he pressed the gas and ran right into the back of the car in front of him. A girl stepped out of the car, and within a couple of days they are dating. He thinks to himself that that was indeed supposed to meet this girl. Hence, the reason that he ran into the back of her. We are then introduced to Adam, Brian’s best friend and his girlfriend, Marjorie who think that Brian is crazy for dating this girl; they refer to as “Car girl.” He assures them both that “Car girl” is really something, not to worry.

Adam decides to make a pack with Brian. Adam says he will break up with Marjorie, if Brian breaks up with “Car girl.” We find out that Brian has feelings for Marjorie, so Brian is pumped that Adam suggests the pack. Brian breaks up with “Car girl” who goes completely psycho on him afterwards. A curve ball is thrown when Marjorie shows up with an engagement ring on her finger, and Brian looses it.

Later on in the show, Brian and Marjorie share a moment together, and kiss. Adam has no idea that any of the behind the scenes romance is taking place between his finance, and his best friend.

The show is going to roller coaster ride because within the first episode Adam and Marjorie became engaged, Brian and Marjorie have kissed, and Brian has decided he is going to let Marjorie know how he feels about her.

blog for Saturday

I hung out with some friends that I had not seen since my high school graduation. And I must say the saying hold truth, “people change.” I don’t know if it was more so me, or them but somewhere along the way change occurred. Why is it that we allow time to pass, and not do anything about it? I walked into the door and unfortunately, the first person I came in contact with was my ex-boyfriend, whom I dated for 3 and half years. It had been months since either of us had engaged in conversation. Yet, the only words that we exchanged were a causal “hello,” and “hey, what’s up.” I keep my head up and continued on into the party to find that the people I once knew had become complete and total strangers. I thought to myself who are these people? The questions that everyone threw at me all night were “where have you been for the past three years?” I laughed at the question and answered going to school. All the conversations seemed to have a reoccurring theme, “where have you been?” “Where are you going to school?” “What’s your major?” I kept thinking to myself time really has gone by. I had a good time that night; it was more or less a growing experience for me. I always hung out with these people in high school, but lost ties with them the day I graduated. I think I spent a lot of the night really just taking it all in. I felt like an outsider at a few points throughout the night, I just was in awe as to how things have changed. I think the underlying moment occurred as I sat on the couch playing some card games. My attention got taken away as I happened to glance over to the other side of the room, where my ex-boyfriend caught my attention. He was leaning up against the wall, talking to some friends. I couldn’t help, but to watch as he interacted with them. I got caught up in the moment, as I reflected on our awkward exchange of words as I walked through the front door. I did not even really realize I was staring at him, but it was at that moment I really was looking beyond him. I sat there on the couch and thought to myself, I spent 3 and half years with that guy, and now I don’t even know him. The next thought that appeared in my head was well he doesn’t know me anymore. I was soon snapped back to reality just in time as we made eye contact. I looked away as my friend grabbed my arm, and asked me if I was okay. I continued with the card games, and he continued talking among his friends. That was a huge defining moment for me. I thought to myself time has changed, I am not who I used to be in high school.

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Style summary
Lesson 8 : Shape

Williams focuses on writing clear sentences, while at the same time being able to articulate your meanings. He says that people tell us not to write using long sentences, but some complex ideas call for longer, and clear sentences. It is easier to see the way that sentences are structured when looking at work other then yours. Williams says to put slash marks after every period and question mark. Read the sentences aloud that are more than 2 lines long, and if you run out of breathe before you come to the end of the sentence then you should revise the sentence. As a writer one must communicate in long sentences, but Williams suggests avoiding long introductory phrases, long subjects, and interrupting subjects and verbs. The clauses that break up the sentence should be broken down and then placed in the beginning of the sentence, rather than in the middle. Williams last thought that he leaves us with is that in order to write long sentences, pay close attention to the punctuation that keeps the sentences flowing.

Thursday, April 13, 2006

Some thoughts about my WM studies reading

Chapter 8

“Productive work is done for money; work not done for money is defined as unproductive.”
I was not a fan of this statement because a stay at home mom does not get paid to take care of her husband and children. Not only is she taking care of her children, but she has to manage and provide a stable household environment. Stay at home moms have to pack lunches, take the children back and forth to school, buy groceries, cook dinner, do laundry, and be a loving mother, and wife. I would call that a full time job, except it is considered to be unproductive work because moms are not getting paid for it.

I was not sure what to think about the fact that race and ethnicity determine the type of labor people are assigned, and then gender and class determine what work is done (318). At first, I thought that it was discriminating against gender. I don’t think that race, ethnicity and class really would make a difference in the type of work though. I would agree that gender plays an important factor in the type of work a person is placed in. An employer would not want to place a woman in a job that would put her in danger due to the heavy amount of lifting she has to do. In this case, a man would be better suited for the job.

I really like the reading about “Reflections of a Feminist Mom,” for a lot of reasons. It was interesting and easy to read, and I liked what it had to say. I was shocked when I read the part about the mom being able to take her 7 week old baby to work. It was kind of a sense of relief to me because she was able to have the role as a mom, but at the same time continue to keep her job. It shows that if women are wanted enough in there profession then their boss will do whatever it takes for their employers to continue working despite the new addition to their personal family.

Chapter 9

After reading about the oppressive working conditions and health problems that people are faced with after they work in the factories in Mexico. I feel like I was not totally aware of how thankful I should be that I don’t have to what they do on a daily basis. Not only to the struggle with working in these conditions, with very little pay. They will experience permanent damage from the stress, illnesses from being exposed to the deadly chemicals, and bad eyesight from working long hours with tired eyes (372). These are all things that will influence their way of life in the future, all because they had to work under these conditions to make a living.

“The richest 20 percent of the world’s population receives 80 percent of the world’s income. The richest 20 percent of the world’s population in northern industrial countries uses 86 percent of the world’s resources” (377).
I thought this was a different way of looking at the income, and the amount of people that make it and receive it. I like that it illustrates that the people rich people get all of the money, we all strive to make. Yet, with all of the money the rich people have, they spend it on the resources all over the world. I guess if you have money, spend it? But at the same time, the rich people are taking our hard earned money and spending it at the same time, for their needs.

One of the provisions to allow the economy to boost is to cut back on the government spending on health, education, child care, and social welfare provisions (381).
I understand that by reducing the amount of money spent on the following things would reduce the money the United States spends, but at the same time the American people need all of the things in order to survive. Think about a single-mom, she is going to need health and child care in order to provide for her family. I understand that it would be logical as far as money goes, but how about the well-being of the American people.

Chapter 12

In the reading, “The Ecofeminist Imperative,” I found it interesting that we define an entire culture to be against nature, if they we are against nature then we are against women. I had a hard time drawing a conclusion to be that strongly supporting this idea. In the reading, I got a sense of just how important ecofeminism is to the world.

Environmentalism – I always knew what it was but was not aware Congress passed a number of laws in order to improve air and the quality of water for endangered species. I like the fact that the legislature is involved and supports the environment we live in.

The reading “Empowering Ourselves” really opened my eyes to the way the environment has an effect on people. I knew it effected us, but didn’t realize that it was to that extent. I liked the way the article was written, having a quote or statement then gives an explanation about it. I was shocked to hear “family physican is not likely to know anything about toxic chemicals, only 4 hours is needed in a 4 year medical school” (507). I guess I didn’t understand why the effects have no been taken into more consideration.

Wednesday, April 12, 2006

Outlining Fast Food Nation

Introduces the reader to Carl Karcher and his story with the rise of the fast food industry.
Carl Karcher’s history from birth (1917) until he moved to California (1938).
History and description of Anaheim and surrounding areas at this time.
Introduces where Carl worked, how Carl met his wife, and how they began their lives together.
Carl’s girlfriend, Margaret worked in a law firm, Carl worked at his uncle’s store along with a bakery. Carl and Margaret soon got married (1939) and they had their first child almost a year later.
Carl drove a bakery truck, which leads to him buying a hotdog cart. Carl borrowed money from the bank, and opened the cart with 2 other guys. He allowed these 2 guys to help out when he needed them. The cart did so well, he actually bought another, where Margaret helped keep the business going.
Introduces the new style of eating around carts. In 1940, more than a million cars were in LA, there were more cars there then the 41 states.
People had cars all over because having a car obtained independence, on top of the fact that they did not have to deal with rail schedules. Driving costs less then publics transportation.
Automobile industry was meant to wipe out railways. General Motors purchased trolley systems.
People who destroyed rail network were fined $1 each, yet the cars still won.
Cars inspired the world’s first motel, and drive-in bank. Soon after, the drive-in restaurant appeared, drive-in closed at the end of the summer except in Southern California.
Southern California because gaudy, so they would be easily spotted from the road. Drive-ins competed for attention, using carhops with short skirts.
Carl owned 4 hot dog carts in LA (1944), while still working full time. Bought a restaurant from across the street, started Carl’s Drive-in BBQ, where Carl and Margaret owned the place.
After WWII, business soared at Carl’s Drive-in BBQ and LA became the 2nd largest manufacturing center in the U.S.
Carl and Margaret bought a house 5 blocks from the drive-in, and added rooms to hold all 12 kids.
Competition appears when Richard and Maurie open the McDonald’s Burger Drive-in.
McDonald’s thought about selling the business, but decided to come up with something new.
McDonald’s fires all of their car hops, get new grills, and reopened a couple of weeks later. They did this with hope that sales will increase.
New design for building to make things visable from the road, use fancy signs to bring them off the road.
People are starting to get used to waiting in line to get their own food.
San Bernardino was the melting pot of agriculture and industry. Introduced to Hell’s Angel, they are very anti McDonalds.
Carl went home and created his own self-service restaurant (1956). His first restaurant was a success, opening off the new freeway.
McDonald’s was copied all around the world. Fast food chains were started by the people you would see going door to door because the start up costs were low, but they had high profit margins.
William Rosenburg was a school dropout who eventually opened what we know today as Dunkin Donuts.
Glen Bell, WWII veteran traveled to McDonalds, and then decided to copy the fast process only with Mexican food. He created Taco Bell. Word got out in Florida about the McDonalds brothers’ new restaurant, the next thing that appeared was Burger King. Dave Thomas dropped out of school at 15, and eventually created Wendy’s.

Tuesday, April 11, 2006

Working on my annotated bibliographic essay for my history class:

Thesis: Women of the 1960’s were automatically placed upon a pedestal for men to admire them; who knew what seemed to be such a hot seat proved to be the foundation of low self esteem, and lack of importance outside of the household.

Topics to cover:
Women’s role in the household
The way men viewed women
“Sleeping beauty” analogy – if women do not wake up life will pass them by.
The magazine Seventeen influences young women at such a young age giving girls the idea that they have to uphold the standard that women are objects of desire.
Women are placed upon pedestals. Yet, being on a pedestal is what gives women the pressure to be a mom, housewife, and spouse. Being placed high upon society is in fact what causes women to feel lonely, and unworthy to society.
Women question their self-worth because they are not able to obtain education, instead they are forced to stay inside and take care of their home and children.

Annotated Bibliography:

Friedan, Betty. The Feminism Mystique. New York: W.W. Norton & Company, Inc, 1997.

Friedan gives a personal insight as to how women felt during the 1960’s. It is through her personal experience, among the other stories from women Friedan is able to put the need for the Feminism Movement into perspective. Reading the Feminism Mystique, my heart goes out to the women because they struggle everyday as they try and feel like they have a purpose. Yet, this is the hard to do when women are locked up in a house doing the same things everyday: cooking, cleaning, taking care of their children.

Horowitz, Daniel. Betty Friedan and the Making of The Feminine Mystique. Amherst: University of Massachusetts Press, 1998.

Horowitz states that Betty Friedan did not really plan to write The Feminine Mystique. At the same time the life she led was what in fact allowed her to do so. It was throughout the writing of the book that her life was then pieced together. In the book we as readers, are able to see her life from first hand experience.


Kolbenschlag, Madonna. Kiss Sleeping Beauty Good-bye. New York: Doubleday & Company, Inc, 1979.

Kolbenschlag really puts an interesting perspective on the way that both girls and women are perceived. She states that girls are constantly sitting in class, waiting for something. Girls are constantly waiting for life, but the thing is life has already begun. If the girls do not “wake up” then life will pass them by. She makes the claim that girls are always seeking advice from magazines, like Seventeen. Seventeen teaches young girls to be desirable, and attractive to boys. In the magazine, they makes statements that suggest school is the best place to meet boys. With these statements young girls are pressured to look their best at school when they think they are going to have to dress to impress. And we wonder why women think they have one role in the world, to be objects of desire?

Janeway, Elizabeth. Man’s World, Woman’s Place: A Study in Social Mythology. New York: William Morrow and Company, Inc, 1971.

This book talks about the myths in which women are perceived in society. The first sentence of the book summarizes the view of the book, “It’s a man’s world. Woman’s place is in the home” (7) It then goes on to state that “outer space is reserved for men, inner place belongs to women” (7). One myth Janeway talks about is the duty women have in the household. She illustrates that women’s jobs used to be the home. The duty has now changed because women are in more than taking care of their children, and home. She says that the reasoning in this is because there is now less for women to do in the home then it used to. When women do not have enough to keep themselves occupied they will not be happy. In order for women


"Motherhood reconceived: feminism and the legacy of the sixties." Canadian Woman Studies 18.2-3 (Summer-Fall 1998): 156. Expanded Academic ASAP. Thomson Gale. Randolph-Macon College. 11 April 2006 .

This article talked about how women in the 1960’s were taking an active approach on motherhood. They were becoming less ashamed of their sexuality, and finally embracing it. Women obtained a more confident view towards their bodies. In the 1960’s and 70’s women felt that womanhood would bring women of all ethnicities closer together. Women were banning together in order to claim love for themselves, and one another.

Monday, April 10, 2006

I am still in the brainstorming process for my journal article. After our discussion in class today, I felt that you can make almost anything an argument. But in terms on this assignment, we are writers are suppose to persuade our readers to adopt our position on the controversy. I think that my best way to go about this is to present my topic in a way that the reader will gain an emotional connection. Using some of the foundations I used in my personal narrative I think that I will be able to pull at the reader’s heartstrings by describing my household growing up. Talking about how my parents never got along I think that I will be able to convey this message to the reader. I am unsure as to how I am going to be able to show the audience that divorce is not sure a bad thing. I say that because I found in my inquiry essay I did not represent both sides of my argument. The reason for that is because I did not find research that portrayed divorce in a positive light. I am not really sure what my topic will be on. Any suggestions?

Sunday, April 09, 2006

Lesson 7 discusses the understanding of concision. In order to obtain concision within your writing there are 5 principles to follow: Delete words with little importance, get rid of paired words, words with little meanings, avoid using phrases when a word will get the same meaning across, stay away from negatives and use affirmatives. Williams states “readers think you write clearly when you use only the words you need to say what you mean” (114). I liked that Williams illustrates that readers appreciate concision. They do not enjoy reading a bunch of stuff. I was surprised to see how much a writer can revise their work, and still get a point across to their audience. I liked seeing how much of a work can be revised, and Williams shows how to work through the process. Reducing the amount of words the writer uses, shows that the same point can be relayed by getting rid of its redundancy.

Saturday, April 08, 2006

Student: Elizabeth Brittain
Date of Appointment: April 5, 2006/9 PM
Course: Advanced Expository Writing
Consultant: Eleni

Eleni and I talked about how to make my paper read well. I went in not feeling like I was giving the reader a visual picture. She really helped me obtain a better understanding as to what and where I told, not showed the reader in my narrative. She walked me through my entire narrative. Helping with punctuation, grammar, and suggesting places in my narrative where I need to elaborate more.

I have been having a hard time with semi colons, and commas. She shared some insight as to where I should use them, and gave me some handouts that showed comma rules. This really helped me a lot because I seemed to have more semicolons, and commas then I really needed. After I took out some of the commas, my paper read a lot smoother.

After I left the writing center, I focused on getting rid of commas and semicolons if I did not really need them. I went through my paper line by line in order to make sure that it read well. Eleni advised me to get rid of words like finally, and at the same time that showed repetition. In my paper, I used a lot of the my dad, and my mom to start sentences, so I reworked sentences with transitions so the paper was not so boring. So I used better word choices in order to give my narrative more variety. I went through and explained details in order for the reader to have a better understanding as to how life was for me. Through flashbacks and stories of my life as my parent’s divorced give the reader a greater understanding as to how things really were. I also decided to add a statistic to my conclusion, after Dr. Malesh suggested doing so. It gives the readers something to think about, while at the same time lets the readers know that divorce is a reality.

Friday, April 07, 2006

How would it feel to have a husband or son far away from you, fighting in a war that is not making any progress? Better yet, would you like to be the husband that has a wife and children at home that he is being torn away from because of this war that will not end? In Aristophanes’ Lysistrata, this is the problem that the Athenian women have to deal with; they are trying to come up with a solution to put a stop to the war. Lysistrata comes up with a plan that will get women from both Athens and Sparta to come together and try to bring about a truce that will “save [all of] Greece” (Prologue 24). Her plan is to hide the women in the Akropolis to control the treasury and not to have sex with their husbands until they all agree to a truce. The idea of not having their wives around the house and not being able to engage in sexual activities strikes up conflict for the men. This is the beginning of a dilemma starting up between the women and men.

Being a human, it is understood that we all strive for and live off our wants and desires in order to survive. C. George Boeree states this theory: “Freudian psychological reality begins with the world, full of objects. Among them is a very special object, the organism. The organism is special in that it acts to survive and reproduce, and it is guided toward those ends by its needs -- hunger, thirst, the avoidance of pain, and sex.” One of the needs we have is the desire for sex. In the play, Lysistrata, Aristophanes illustrates how much of an impact the need for sexual pleasure can play into a man’s genetic make-up. A theory on a human’s sexual wants was created: “Freud's clinical experience led him to view sex as much more important in the dynamics of the psyche than other needs. We are, after all, social creatures, and sex is the most social of needs. Plus, we have to remember that Freud included much more than intercourse in the term sex! Anyway, libido has come to mean, not any old drive, but the sex drive” (Boeree). Obviously, this theory holds some truth, but not always to every human being alive. I think that our sexual thoughts have a different impact, all depending on the gender. I am not saying that women are not interested in engaging in sexual activities; after all we are all human beings. Sexual feelings are included in our genetic makeup; it is natural to engage in sexual activities in order to reproduce.

It seems as if every human on this earth is aware of the fact that it is more common for men to be more driven by his sexual thoughts. It is understood by women that men, need “it” in order to function properly. Research has shown that men are more interested in sexual activity. According to David G. Myers:
Psychologists Roy Baumeister, Kathleen Catanese, and Kathleen Vohs (2001) invite us to consider which gender has the stronger sex drive. More specifically, which desires more frequent sex, thinks more about sex, masturbates more often, initiates more sex, and makes more sacrifices to gain sex? The answers to these and other such questions are men, men, men, and men. (103-04) It is spelled out in letters for us that men’s thoughts are more sexually orientated, compared to women’s. I feel that this thought process about sexual desires is clearly illustrated in the play Lysistrata. The men are having a hard time dealing with the fact that they are not able to have sex with their wives until they come to an alliance and make peace. It is because of this issue the men are starting to re-think things and are starting to In this case, the situation of establishing peace to end the war, and claim their manhood back. I do not want it to be thought upon that only the men wanted to have sex, the women had to stand their ground and not give into the temptation, despite their own sexual feelings. This is a quote that has been used to describe how much of an impact sexual intercourse has on a human:
We have been given to understand that sexual intercourse can be a way to personal happiness and fulfilment but, as with alcohol and nicotine, once the habit has been established, there is no possible way of ever having enough. One may feel, after a night of unbridled passion, that desire has been satisfied, but after a few hours it will come back again, worse and more urgent than ever -- as if it had never been satisfied in the first place. All sexual intercourse does is create a desire to have more. And there is never any way of satisfying the craving. (Hodgkinson)

This statement goes back and supports the fact that no matter, male or female we are all out to meet our needs in order to survive. Men are just getting more attention because of the stereotype they carry with themselves about the sex issue. With statistics being produced stating, “In a Canadian survey, 80 percent of 2350 customers of adult-only video stores were males (although half claimed to engage a partner in watching the movies-Jenish, 1993). And if you have guessed that most hard-core pornography readers are male and most romantic novel readers are female, you are right (Malamuth, 1996)” (Myers 104). Well no wonder men are constantly being told that life revolves around sex because to them it does!!

I think that this play Lysistrata shows that women do have a power over men in society. All it takes is for a man’s desire to be snatched away from their hands, and some improvements will evolve. It is natural for human beings to want something; each person has something different that is important to them in their world. Lysistrata knew her husband, along with many others in the world and was able to get their attention by doing it. As is turns out, the men were tired of the fact that their wives were not around, and cracked at the thought of not being able to have sexual contact with their loved ones. The men all worked together, and where willing to call peace between the Peloponnesian war. This was the end of the war, and also their “no touch” campaign with their wives.

Thursday, April 06, 2006

Here is a response I had to from an article in my class:

Are we really afraid of change – why do we still hold on to things that are easy for us to understand? In the reading, “Who Am I If I’m Not my Father’s Daughter?” it made a statement, “Each of us carries around with us those growing up places, the institutions, a sort of backdrop, a stage-set. So often we act out the present against a backdrop of the past, within a frame of perception that is so familiar, so safe that it is terrifying to risk changing it even when we know our perceptions are distorted, limited, constricted by that old view” (44). We all grow up around parents who only want the best for us, but sometimes when we get too comfortable with the world we live in; we tend to loose the insight or desire to question things. When we carry around a “backdrop or stage-set” we won’t put up a fight or really comprehend the situations happening right in front of us. The important thing about life is that we are all given choices, and it is up to us to decide for ourselves the outcome. We need to live our lives everyday for nobody other then ourselves, and not sit back and just watch life as if it were a play being performed in front of us on stage. We need to be able to step outside of the “safety zone” and take chances.
“Women earn seventy five cents for every dollar earned by men.” This statistic just down right upsets me. I don’t understand why women are always have to fight for better pay, better medical insurance, better jobs, a better future…and so on. It just isn’t fair, in the workforce; women are always looked down upon. But in the home they are put up on a “pedal-stool.” Yet, the reason for this is because they are expected to clean the house, do the dishes, change the dirty diapers, and then help the kids with homework. We talked about in class how if women were to get paid for everything they did in the home, they would be getting paid anywhere from $20-30 an hour. That is crazy, and then we said that if it was not for women holding down the daily chores of running a household on top of working a full time job, the men would not be able to go out into the working world and actually make it. When are women going to get respected and thanked for all of the time, energy, and emotion into raising a healthy and happy home?

Wednesday, April 05, 2006

I really worked on adding more discriptive details to a couple sections in the narrative:

My mom was the parent that really impacted me growing up because she was around the most. My dad worked at a tavern in Colonial Williamsburg. He was always working both the lunch, and dinner shifts. My dad often came home well after both Amy and I had gone to bed. Growing up my dad missed out on a lot of my childhood; he often tried to make up for it by turning to a more materialistic relationship. Dad was the one who would take us to the circus, movies, and buy us toys. My mom was the one who was there when Amy and I skinned our knees, or gave us a hug when we had a bad day. The relationships I had with my parents were completely and totally different from each other.
On November 20, 2000, things had finally hit rock bottom for my family. I sat there beside my little sister, anxiously waiting for what my parents called us into the living room. Amy and I thought we were going to Disney World because our parents had mentioned it before. Little did we know that we were in for some life changing news? We sat on the couch with high hopes, only to find out that our parents were getting a divorce. I was fourteen at the time, and I knew exactly what divorce meant. My little sister, Amy, nine years old, had no idea what a divorce was. Amy piped up and said “we aren’t going to Disney World?” Of course, I grabbed Amy and told her to be quiet. She had no idea what was going on. But, I knew; I knew it was going to be a long road ahead.
My dad moved out, and my mom assured us that we were going to get through this together. My mom, after being a stay at home mom, now had to find a job; after all she now had two children to provide for. She started working for Marriott Corporation in the Guest Relations Department, making a descent amount of money, but had very demanding hours. During the course of the week, my mom sometimes worked 80 hours a week. I was the one who took on the role of a mom to Amy, while my mom was working to provide for my sister and me. I was fourteen years old, pretending to be a mother to my sister, and keeping everything together at the same time. I thought of myself as a mom because I did it all.



The most influential person in my life has been my mom because she was around the most. I had a “super-mom,” who defiantly did it all. She was always there to wiped away the tears and blood when we fell off our bikes in the neighborhood. No matter how bad it hurt, mom’s touch and a Band-Aid saved the day every time. I remember the day that I found out that there was not a Santa Claus. I came running home in tears because some big bully on the bus announced to all of the kids on the bus that Santa Claus did not exist. At that point in time I thought that the world was going to end, but mom convinced me the boy was lying. Of course, I believed every word my mom said. Suddenly, my world did not seem so bad when my mom wrapped her arms around me. The relationships I shared with each of my parents were completely different from each other.
My Dad piled Amy and me into the car to take us on a father and daughters outing. The one he thought would allow him to connect with us. We drove to Norfolk, to watch “The Greatest Show on Earth,” the Ringling Brothers Barum and Bailey Circus. An entire night filled with fun: cotton candy, lions, tigers, elephants, and clowns parading around the Norfolk Scope. Growing up my dad missed out a lot of my childhood. My My dad made a living working at a tavern in Colonial Williamsburg, in order to make ends meet he worked both lunch, and dinner shifts. Unfortunately, he came home well after Amy and I had gone to bed. Feeling guilty for not being able to attend our award ceremonies or cheerleading performances, he tried to make up for it by turning to a more materialistic relationship. He thought taking us to the local circus, to movies, and buying us toys would cover up the fact that he worked all of the time.
On November 20, 2000, things finally hit rock bottom for my family. My parents called us into the living room because they had news to share. I sat there beside my little sister, anxiously waiting for the good news. Amy and I thought we would be going on a trip to Disney World. Surely they were going to tell us we were going to Disney World because our parents had mentioned it before, little did we know our lives were about to be forever changed. We were wrong. We would be going to Disney World at some point, but not as a nuclear family. Our parents, married for fifteen years; now getting a divorce. Even at fourteen, I knew what exactly what divorce meant. My little sister, nine years old, had no idea what we were in for. I looked over at Amy’s face which was now snow white. The look on her face was that of disappointment and fear all at the same time. I then started to notice the tears as they started to stream down her face as she piped up and said “we aren’t going to Disney World?” Of course, I grabbed Amy and told her, “shhh, be quiet!!” We made arrangements to celebrate Thanksgiving at my grandparents in Roanoke, mom was going to make my favorite “Sweet Potato Pudding,” and Amy’s “Seven Layer Salad.” It was almost Thanksgiving, and now my family was falling apart? From that moment on our lives would never be the same, and I knew the road ahead would not be easy.
Soon after the announcement of my parent’s divorce, Dad moved into an apartment on the other side of Williamsburg. Mom assured us that we were going to get through this divorce together. But how could we do it together if an essential part of our family was missing? My mom, a stay at home mom for fourteen years was now searching for a job in the working world. She now carried the sole responsibility to provide for her two children. Fortunately, she received a job working for the Marriott Corporation. She landed a position in the Guest Relations Department; the job paid a she decent amount of money, but had very demanding hours. During the course of the week, mom sometimes worked almost 80 hours. I took on the role of a mom, while mom worked to provide for my sister and me. At only fourteen, I was balancing the role of a mother to my sister, and attempting to be a teenager at the same time.

Tuesday, April 04, 2006

I worked on my closing paragraphs:

My dad was not as fortunate, raised by a mom and dad who offered him more of a materialistic relationship. My grandfather fought a never ending battle with his health, when my dad was younger his father was constantly being rushed back and forth from the hospital and doctors office. My grandfather suffered from a lot of severe problems with his brain. My grandmother tried to overcompensate for the fact that her husband was not around, so she constantly bought toys and sporting items for my dad. In her eyes, I guess she thought that this was the answer to the problem. Which leads me to believe that is why my dad always tried to buy our love; he did all that he knew, as he was materialistically raised. And my mom was the one to wipe our tears, and offer support when we needed it. My parents just did not see eye to eye on much because of the way their parents raised them. Dealing with my parent’s divorce was not easy, but looking at the whole picture it was better for our family. Looking back on my childhood, I can not remember a day when my parents got along; there was never anything they could agree on. A lot of the arguments were based on Amy and me, and how they wanted to raise us, only because they love the two of us so much.

I do not regret my parent’s divorce because it was the best thing for our family. My parent’s divorce has really impacted the person I am today. I have walked away from it a stronger person. I have really learned the value of family because my parent’s divorce brought my mom, my sister and I closer together. At that point in time, I really struggled with all the emotions I felt because of my parent’s divorce. But I knew that the only way to get through it would be to just to deal with it the best I could. Coming from a divorced home I feel I have a strong foundation as to what exactly a family is, and how important they are to me. Even though I lived with my mom and sister, we got through it together and always made things work.

I sometimes have doubts about my marriage I will have one day. I think to myself what happens if I am not able to get along with my spouse? Yet at the same time, dealing with divorce has really put a different perspective on relationships. I feel like I have gained an understanding as to what exactly I want out of a relationship. I know that you can not just settle for someone. I guess coming from experience with divorce my expectations of a relationship are now higher; not to say that is a bad thing. As with life, there are always good and bad in everything; the same goes for divorce.

Monday, April 03, 2006

revisions to my narrative:
I pulled the covers over my head, hoping to muffle out the voices of my parents screaming at each other. This was an occurrence that usually began as soon as my dad walked through the front door. It is midnight; once again I was awoken by my parents and their high pitched voices as they struggled to find a happy median. Whether it was money, discipline, the simple fact that my dad was never around, there was always a huge debate between my parents as I was growing up. My dad was not around much when I was a child; he was always working in order to provide for our family, as he liked to say. My mom was a stay at home mom. She would wake up my younger sister, Amy, and me. Mom packed our lunch’s everyday, and was always waiting at the bus stop for us with a smile on her face. Growing up in our household was not easy, but it has made me who I am today. A stronger person who truly appreciates all that I have been through, despite the fact that some sacrifices were made along the way.
My mom was the parent that really impacted me growing up because she was around the most. My dad worked at a tavern in Colonial Williamsburg. He was always working both the lunch, and dinner shifts. My dad often came home well after both Amy and I had gone to bed. Growing up my dad missed out on a lot of my childhood, he often tried to make up for it by turning to a more materialistic relationship. My dad was the one who would take us to the circus, movies, and buy us toys in hopes that these possessions would cover up the fact that he was never around. My mom was the one who was there when Amy and I skinned our knees, or gave us a hug when we had a bad day. The relationships I had with my parents were completely and totally different from each other.
On November 20, 2000, things had finally hit rock bottom for my family. I sat there beside my little sister, anxiously waiting for what my parents called us into the living room for. Amy and I thought we were going to Disney World because our parents had mentioned it before. Little did we know that we were in for some life changing news? We sat on the couch with high hopes, only to find out that our parents were getting a divorce. I was fourteen at the time, and I knew what exactly what that meant. My little sister, Amy, nine years old, had no idea what a divorce was. Amy piped up and said “we aren’t going to Disney World?” Of course, I grabbed Amy and told her to be quiet. She had no idea what was going on. But, I knew; I knew it was going to be a long road ahead.
I pulled the covers over my head, hoping to muffle out the voices of my parents screaming at each other. The arguments began as soon as my dad walked through the front door. I rubbed my eyes, squinted as I struggled to read the blurry numbers on my alarm clock; the clock read midnight. Once again I woke up to the high pitched voices, as my parents struggled to find a happy median. One argument at a time, money, discipline, dad’s absence, our family fell apart. I did not see my dad’s face much growing up; he worked in order to provide for our family, as he liked to say. I grew up lucky to have a stay at home mom. Everyday she woke up my younger sister, Amy, and me; mom packed our lunch, and sent us off to school. I looked forward to seeing mom’s smiling face when I got off the bus. Our household was not perfect, but the experience has made me who I am today. I am a stronger person who truly appreciates all that I have been through, even though I made some sacrifices along the way.
My mom impacted me the most because she made the effort to be around. My dad worked at a tavern in Colonial Williamsburg. He worked both the lunch, and dinner shifts. Unfortunately, my dad often came home well after both Amy and I had gone to bed. Growing up my dad missed out on a lot of my childhood. He often tried to make up for it by turning to a more materialistic relationship. My dad thought taking us to the circus, the movies, and buying us toys would cover up the fact that he worked all of the time. My mom did it all; when Amy and I skinned our knees, or gave us a hug if we had a bad day. The relationships I had with my parents were completely different from each other.
On November 20, 2000, things finally hit rock bottom for my family. My parents called us into the living room because they had news to share; I sat there beside my little sister, anxiously waiting for the good news. Amy and I thought a trip to Disney World, surely Disney World because our parents had mentioned it before. So we thought, little did we know our lives were forever changing. Our parents, married for fifteen years; now getting a divorce. Even at fourteen, I knew what exactly what divorce meant. My little sister, Amy, nine years old, had no idea what we were in for. Amy piped up and said “we aren’t going to Disney World?” Of course, I grabbed Amy and told her, “shhh, be quiet!!” She had no idea how much our lives would change. I knew the road ahead would not be easy.

Sunday, April 02, 2006

Williams states the point of the writing process is to create a work that is cohesive and coherent to the reader. He says that the way a sentence begins is just as important to the way it ends because “how you end a sentence determines how readers judge both its clarity and its strength” (92). In order for the reader to understand the message, the writer should choose the right words. As a writer one needs to avoid the use of complex sentences through grammar and meaning. Begin sentences with information that the reader will understand. Using information that reader is not knowledgeable about will not give the reader a clear indication as to what the writer is trying to convey to the audience. If information will be foreign to the reader, Williams suggests that it is best to put the information at the end of the sentence. After the unfamiliar information is introduced in the beginning of the sentence.

Stressing the topic throughout the paper, places an emphasis on the topic itself. The reader will pick up on the topic if you place them in topic sentences, as a subject. Or using the topic as a theme in nouns, adjectives, and verbs. In most cases, the reader will see the topic if it is put at the end of the sentence that introduces the passage. Then the rest of the passage will explain what the topic is your introducing. Placing words in a particular place will also puts stress on words that you want emphasize to the reader.